Life throws at us problems of undefinable magnitude and credence. And it is often said that difficult circumstances demand difficult decisions. But letting the circumstances mould us just doesnt seem right. It has happened quite often that people have changed and they cite the impossibility of the situation around them as the major factor. I have done it many times myself. And then I have realised that people can never really change, no matter what they do. Not when they have grown up to certain point, which I say is the point of no return. For some this might be at the age of 20, and for some it could be even 10- one can never tell. We have grown up in certain circumstances and possibly dealt with them in various ways, avoiding repitition in our methods 'cos I know I was more fearless at the age of 12 than I am now. Its kind of funny when we actually grow up and are more afraid of more things mainly because we have been "educated"- yes, education usually does take away something while giving us other things. Anyway, we finally choose, consciously & unconsciously in tandem, what way is the best for us to draw our plans for the road ahead. And possibly thats why we become more hesitant to do something 'new' or 'different'. And that's not always a bad thing.
Usually our 'self' will go through a lot of phases...where it is comfortable with what it is, and then question if it is really comfortable in itself, and then think that maybe it should try something new and try to 'fit in' with the rest and so on. In the end, the 'self' realises that it is a unique entity designed to not be similar to anything or anyone else.
Life will bring us face to face with a lot of situations where we have to hold our own and still dont. We let the whole situation overwhelm us. And that happens usually when we feel we are not strong enough. and that's why the situation will overwhelm us and make us make the apparently "necessary" and "required" changes in ourselves. The changes are very diverse and vary from person to person and situation to situation. The new 'personality' soon starts to get into conflict with the original 'us'. And the whole thing starts to become what we didnt want it to become. We belive we are doing fine in the changed scenario this way but we are never really comfortable because, the soul feels stifled. 'cos we have already crossed the point of no return. And 'cos we have let the circumstances dictate its terms to us, which if we dont agree with fundamentally, we will never be in agreement with it ever.
How often so many of us want to be someone else 'cos we feel that its going to make life easier for us. Eventually we will realise that we can never be anyone else but ourselves. Rather than cheat ourselves, it would save a lot of time & effort, if we focus on what we can do with what we have in hand.
How often I have wished I could say things just the way it is. That I could tell people exactly what I think they should know. However, I always feel that since we all are designed to know and feel, they will know eventually through symbols, messages and what have you. And then I do often come across a big wall- made of impatience, ego, dormancy, objectivity, objections, refusals, and everything that will blind one's third eye. And that is when I either say it bluntly or let it go if its not that important. And I have accepted that, not 'cos thats what is expected or 'cos its the most efficient (not even close!) way, but 'cos thats who I am.
The third-person is always very important in any situation...the way out of a maze is best seen when you are over it and not inside. When one is inside the maze, he/she has the opportunity to keep stumbling to dead ends and finally getting out OR they could make their own way out by pulling down the walls. The ways to do things are many and the choice is always ours. And the choice depends on what we can do best. In life, I wish we never lose ourselves 'cos thats all that is really ours. And more so 'cos sometimes it is others also who lose someone when you change yourself, but yeah, they will always be waiting for you.
~Good luck y'all
